A New Milestone

I can only write a blog when I'm facing extreme of emotions. Coming back after almost half a year means I'm nearing an important milestone.

It is time that I have to believe that Knights and Saviors do exist. On 21st Jul 2008, I thought my first ever car Kia Cerato Forte was my knight. But its a car, desired by many and that subject is achievable by many too. It can leave you or even make you leave the world.

In fact today, I've seen my knight in person.
*The man who faces the south, the direction towards final phase of any living organism, who brings an ending, which leads to a change, a reincarnation, NEW Birth and beginning of my life.
If ignorance has a human form, let that be me. May I just be that demon, the demon of ignorance who had all along went through illed moments because of that very IGNORANCE, killed by the man facing the south.

Today is the moment I'll stand tall eventually. Living the dream I dream of because of this Knight facing the south. Without you I'm meaningless... Thank You Lord. Thank You Baby...

And am renaming my blog to DaNi NiDa. ( portmanteau of our names)

* Dakshinamurti literally means 'one who is facing south (dakṣiṇa)' in Sanskrit. South is the direction of Death, hence change.[5] In every Siva temple the stone image of Dakshinamurthy is installed, facing south, on the southern circumaA mbulatory path around the sanctum sanctorum. Perhaps, of all Hindu Gods, he is the only one sitting facing south. The great seer Ramana Maharshi, has said in letter 89: one meaning of Dakshina is efficient; another meaning is ‘in the heart on the right side of the body’; Amurthy ’means Formlessness' . "Dakshinamurthy Stotra" in Sanskrit, means the "Shapelessness situated on the right side".

Indian tradition accords a special reverence to the Guru or the teacher. Dakshinamurthy, in the Hindu system of beliefs is regarded as the ultimate Guru - the embodiment of knowledge and the destroyer of ignorance (as represented by the demon being crushed under the feet of the deity). The Jnana Mudra is interpreted in this way:- The thumb denotes the God and the index finger denotes the man. The other three fingers stand for the three congenital impurities of man viz. arrogance, illusion and bad deeds of the past births

nadhiyengu sellum kadalthannaith thaedi (2)ponvandoadum malar thaedien vaazhvil nee vandhadhu vidhiyaanal nee endhan uyiranroa...

Tera sahaara mil gaya hai zindegiHumko kinaara mil gaya hai zindegi...

Focus now. Forget then.

Why speak of what you did for your ex with so much pain, where you can spend that much energy for that new person you are beginning to like.

Those who want to keep sharing their past aren't dating. They're just clearing their names from faults in their past r/ship.

They are secretly wishing that their ex is Hiding behind a bush & listening to their stories who then will appear out of that bush & pin them a medal/kiss for being a 'martyr'.

& also People who recover quickly from past r/ship hiatuses aren't necessarily bad.

They are just fixated in achieving their goals or solving their own problems passionately.

& That's why I couldn't care much of my past & mention it much even if the fault isn't mine.

Cos I've an aim. Aim to be in love & believe in it. Not be in its painful memories.

Maybe I'm one of those who can keep Falling In Love...

3. Dhanush, Aishwariya, Shruthi Hassan.

So the kolaveri song became a Mega Hit. It got the Japanese grooving to it in their nightspots. Even the Hindi speaking region got addicted to a Tamil item, after Dosas. Not to forget countless remixes,notably the milku number by Sonu Nigam's son. Lastly conquering the gold award in YouTube & even appearing in CNN.

Now the big next question is, did the movie catch up with its hype?
At one scene where Dhanush says to his dad, " this is life paa, not to be successful with one hit song". That dialogue would be well meant for Aishwariya Dhanush on her debutant movie.

So what brownie points did Moonu earn?
Songs. If there is one ultimate winner,
it is Anirudh. One can even say he was another cast, who is just invisible.

Being Aishwarya's cousin or Latha Rajnikanth's nephew, Anirudh had good experience in music all the while. His band Zinx has won the competition judged by his idol AR.Rahman. Obviously he was the competition's best instrumentalist.

But the flaws? Wonder why does Dhanush when cast in movies directed by his relatives, plays mostly a psychotic character? In case you had forgotten, it is Kadhal Kondein, Mayakkam Enna and 3. Could it be, they have seen his frenzy character and placing him in such roles would earn them the dough?

First and foremost, this movie isn't a love story. It's not a love failure like what the Kolaveri song or the trailers tease us with.

It's all about internal failure. Failing to communicate and accepting reality. What I can't accept is that these 2 great lovers who been together for 10 years, wasn't enough for Janani to see Ram's health condition?

Secondly, too much wailing from Janani. She faints, over react & getting overtly sensitive. For sure that didn't earn her much admirers.

Lest not forget the supporting cast Senthil. For he played a much better wife role. He bore Dhanush's hot and cold moods, the cold blood beatings & staying by his side for recovery like a Good Partner.

Thirdly I would like to finish this movie review with a message it was trying to deliver. Failing to communicate with your partner fearing for negative impacts is as good as not trusting him/her. Fearing for being negatively treated by your partner should only be a concern for those who has just starting to date. Not for some 10 years odd lovers.

To sidetrack little, in today's society most couples tend to break up when their relationship is on rocks, unlike our parents that fixes. Likewise Ram character opted suicide than to be cured medically.

Lastly, in any suicide case, the loved ones suffer eternally & not the suicidee. If you need a remedy to overcome 3 ending, watch Mayakkam Enna. Not all disorder needs death as medication.

Be grateful for your misery.

I once read a quote that God pushes us to deep waters not to drown but to learn how to swim & keep ashore.


I'm sure when we look up to great achievers in life, we often get amazed by their rags stories.


Here are some inspirational pasts and present.


Learning to accept the fact that problems we face now a will polish us to be a diamond tomorrow.

You are the highly sought after
Actress in Indian Cinema

But You were once labeled Jinx
by some Movie Industries.

You are modern day World Class Icon for Peace.

But You were once ostrasized, beaten, shamed and outraged

But You were once left all alone
when you needed help the most 

You are knowns as World Class Builder
of 3rd World to 1st World Nation Builder

But You were once sacked by the very guy
whom you hired to build your dream.

Everyone lives, eat and dream by your technology product 

How about you? 

Who were you once?

And who are you now?

Or who will you become tomorrow?

Why do I hate the Tula Raasi- the natives of Chitrai, Swathi & Visagam

They make my life miserable.

These Libran moons. They swoon for others attention. They will act tough, mean & baddies but they flick like a TNT laden car in explosive situations.

Hardly practical, slow movers, egoistic, easy to please & easy to disturb.

One demanded my attention & when that person got it, that person fly away.

The other supposedly not to contact me. But still keeping in touch like nothing has happened.

They leave with hatred & come back like shamelessly.

Highly moody mom who can't handle her stress. Often sharing her problem in futile cos when she shares she only speak & refuse to listen to their solutions.

Dad so egoistic & often bothered less. His own world; freedom, appetite, friends, mattered than anything else. Sometimes he will never get what he's
Missing.

Some few arse holes spoke like their hard macho flirts. But when the gal challenged him with indifference & nonchalance they flew away citing incompatibility like some chaste sons.

Then this nincompoop thinks he's handsome & rich, end up losing more
Money in some court cases. (refer to Nothing should be guaranteed)

Not every1 is bad: they work hard, they last long & make popular centre of attention ESP in family matters. But who cares when this "star of relations" can't handle their lovely other halves.

Singapore 2012 Marathons

April 2012

Sunday- 01/04/2012 – New Moon Khcycle MetaSprint Series (Duathlon)
Sunday- 01/04/2012 – 2XU Compression Run
Sunday- 08/04/2012 – Best Friend Run 2012
Saturday- 14/04/2012 – Singapore Flyer 5km Run
Saturday- 14/04/2012 – Nike Goddess 5km
Sunday- 22/04/2012 – Run 350
Saturday- 28/04/2012 – Energizer Singapore Night Trail 2012
Sunday- 29/04/2012 – F1 Nature Run

May 2012

Tues-(Labour Day) 01/05/2012 - SIS AGE group run 2012 - 10K
Sunday- 06/05/2012 – New Moon Khcycle MetaSprint Series (Triathlon)
Sunday- 20/05/2012 - Salomon Tiong Bahru Urban Trail Run 2012
Monday- 21/05/2012 – Passion run 2012
Sunday- 20/05/2012 - Cold Storage Kids Run 2012
Saturday- 26/05/2012 – Sundown Marathon 2012

June 2012
Sunday- 17/06/2012 – Mizuno Mount Faber Run 2012
00/06/2012 – Shape Run -TBC
00/06/2012 – Mizuno Mount Faber Run - TBC

July 2012
Saturday- 07/07/2012 – Republic Run 2012
Sunday- 08/07/2012 – Jurong Lake Run
Saturday- 15/07/2012 – Pocari Sweat Run 2012
Sunday- 22/07/2012 – Singtel Race Against Cancer Run
00/07/2012 – Great Eastern Woman’s 10k TBC

September 2012
Sunday- 16/09/2012 - Mizuno Wave Run 2012
o0/09/2012 – SAFRA Army Half Marathon TBC
00/09/2012 – Yellow Ribbon Prison Run TBC

October 2012
00/10/2012 – NorthFace 100 TBC
00/10/2012 – Nike Run TBC
00/10/2012 – HTNS REAL RUN 2012 TBC
00/10/2012 – Newton Challenge 30k TBC
00/10/2012 – Pink Ribbon Run/Walk TBC

November 2012
Sunday- 18/11/2012 - Salomon X-Trail Run
00/11/2012 – Run For Hope TBC
Sunday- 25/11/2012 - Montrail / Mountain Hardware Tiong Bahru Challenge 2012
Sunday- 25/11/2012 - Swissôtel Vertical Marathon 2012

December 2012
Sunday- 02/12/2012 – Standard Chartered Marathon Singapore
Monday- 31/12/2012 – Catwoman challenge

Listening, understanding and judgment.

A salesperson asks questions to unearth opportunities. He identifies what this individual/organization lacks in terms of services or products so that the salesperson can provide their prospects some money worthy solution and gather their trust. Sometimes their experiences in previous sales could give an advantage in proving their sales pitch.

Therefore it is by asking questions, which leads to information gathering, which then allow us to provide a solution and eventually trusting relationships.

Doctors- ask questions or rather examine their patients, refer to their previous case studies to diagnose proper.

Lawyers refer to their past cases. Understand the psychology of plaintiffs and defendants, later assess the situation and even manipulate to win his client cases.

Who doesn’t judge? Who doesn’t ask questions to help other? Who doesn’t analyze to solve problems?

As a person who has begun to start dating, trust me, there is no escape from the bull shit of judging the opposite person. There is no escape from that act. I rather found it to be very hard but no choice.

When we listen to couples stories, relate to our own mistakes in past relationship; remember our parent’s ways of handling their own relationships etc lead us to lots of pre-determined judgments.

Ever since I’ve been a sales person, where most of my experiences lie in direct selling, I lost count on stories that I’ve heard and even seen. When we meet someone new, chances are they will not disclose us lots of their secrets. Sometimes we ask questions, sometimes we let them speak.
However, to play it safe on whether to fully trust the person on the other side, we let go of our guards by being open. Which in turns lead us to listen to their fantasies, thoughts, mistakes and desires? This pretty much gives us an idea of who they are and what makes them.

Nowadays whenever I get to know a person, I’m no angel that I do judge a person. Often negatively. Sometimes I do that on purpose because it is some kinda thrill and a point of relief when the person I’m getting to know proofs me wrong of my own judgments. I like surprises and the pleasant ones like these could lead even put me in peace.

However, even my subconscious mantra of not to judge a book by often faces its own challenges. I just can’t help but to ‘kill’ some of them off. It is about who I want to spend the rest of my life with and who wouldn’t wanna make clearest choices. தவளை தன் வாயால் கெடும். Some I met just speak to their own death. Some were impressive however again faults could be on my side. As usual no regrets cos I’m a very confident girl who loves the single hood. (sometimes I’ve to stop hating being single).

And now I clearly know one thing right. It is like studying in a university with no clarity. Not sure how many modules left, when will one graduate, who is the “teacher” but am just enjoying the journey of education. I’ve made lotsa mistakes, hurt people unknowingly and have spoken venomous words.
Let this be a space where I can just forget and forgive whoever has crossed into my path. Cheers….

Who is the closest?

Thank you for your finding Ms Jill Y.

I was affected on not knowing why I wasn't able to have any liking of few men recently whom I've been meeting.
As usual the lady above has given my a psycho analysis and was kind enough to give me this report below.

why not you read and tell me of this 2 which one is meant for me

She is compulsive and intense. He or she tends to explode when angry and finds it difficult to forgive and forget. This person is passionate and seductive and has a tendency toward all-or-nothing extremes. The strong sexual energy in her is sometimes channeled into more productive pursuits and these people have the energy, drive and determination to achieve what they want.

A man who possesses a magnetic charisma is rather the type. She is attracted to men who are intense and passionate, usually the silent, brooding type. This female possesses a strong sexual magnetism and likely has many willing suitors, however, she will not settle for a man who does not match her in will-power and strength. She needs to be desired and may be turned on by a man who is slightly possessive of her. This woman needs a passionate man who has a raw sexual energy.

or

Eager and enthusiastic, this person falls in love often and quickly. Friendship is important to her and once a prospective partner has proven that he or she can be this person’s best friend, love blossoms. This person can be quite confident and arrogant about his or her abilities and may appear foolish at times when he or she becomes too cocky. A positive attitude and uplifting spirit are characteristic of the person.

Such person want a man who offers friendship and fun. She is attracted to men who possess a sense-of-humor, honesty and integrity. Sharing adventures or sports with her man is particularly arousing to this female. Relationships with her usually start out as friendships and often her romances fade into friendships over time. She cannot tolerate a man who is possessive or jealous and needs a man who is as independent as she is.

love ready but non fear proof.

been engulfed in talks and topics of marriage, partnership and settle down.
naturally being practical, i knew the time has come and started looking around at some web portals...

over there, there are some who are sincere but u know that there's no connection in mind, style, appearance, character, background and experiences. one may cite the difference to nationality, language and culture.

then there are some who are too eager to please. just because i'm singaporean and not an inch like an indian conservative gal, they start talking abt their shallow encounters of their expereince with opposite sex. like who they had some wierd/unconventional relationships with, kind of woman they had bed expereince, trips with other gals and blah blah blah. this is what i call dog digging a hole thinking it would preserve what it has found but on contrary has fallen in its own hole.


but this moment is like studying in an unknown faculty that has unknown years of course duration, unknown future but with aims to graduate. marriage. if you think staying happily married is challenging, you have not experienced dating with preference. it sucks even more.

love is like the ocean. deeper you go the more you realise. you might even be suffocated to breath being a first timer. but if you're well prepared with the right gear, why fear. go for it. even for myself literally speaking diving in the ocean and not feeling the sea bed of sand is like pulling it down. the day i can feel it is the day he's the one right beside me.